crying often...

I am posting after a long time..lot of changes in my life...my last post was my last bday... this year bday is going to cme..

There are lot of changes in this duration...i have not cried for long time..

now m crying more.. yyy?? i m only the reason for this..
nobody can make u cry or smile, its all in ur hand..i strongly feel this..

Reasons:
1. Expectations - my expectatioins is becomg more and more..i expect my husband to understand me 100% and talk to me accordingly irrespect of his situation/mentality/nature/headache.. from ur point of view expectations seems to be rite..but this might hurt u based on wt mood he is in..

soln: Dont have expectations, it is simple..let it be any relation, plz dont have exp. As long as u have exp, there would be disappoint..if u cannot accpet disapp, that will lead to cry..just do ur duty at ur best..

2.Dont argue: just listen to him d do: dont Always trying to explain u and try to put ur points. and say i cannot accpet u...even if u dont like, dont say, better do it as long as u can adjust and it is not against ur core value, do it.

Soln: u think that u explain urself to him, but he thinks u r disagreeing to his point.,but u say u cannot do this, u r not interested do this,,, he will tell something which might hurt u..Dont rise voice, if u rise voice, it will hurt him, he will also rise voice, will hurt u.. u know him well.. he is a person u want to live wit, most of the opinons same, better listen to him and do it and dont argue,, try to tel him politely ur points and proceed and dont argue wit words..change the topic..keep mum and do it..thats good for u..

3. engage urself in activities: dont give more chances/sit to argue...argue is not good..dont think argue helps to understand more.Agree to agree wit him..not going to loose anything..do something which interests both more..

Thoughts after marriage.